Does this make me jaded? When I saw this article, I immediately thought that becoming an "ex-gay" would be the perfect new-years-resolution diet plan!
"Stabile said his earnings were barely enough to pay his $150 weekly rent at Pure Life, plus laundry, food and transportation expenses. As a result, he lost three pant sizes in the time he was there."
(btw - Dr. McSteamy, Eric Dane has nothing to do with the article, or ex-gays, or even diet plans. He just looked like he was eating healthy).
Most 'out' glbt-s already know what a scam the "ex-gay" movement is. It markets mainly to parents/family of the gay person - playing off the false hope that their child is just going thru a phase and if they prayer real hard to Jesus, they will become miraculously heterosexual. For those that are bullied enough by their "faith" to try, generally spend tens of thousands of dollars and, at best, become emotionally neutered celibates. (with the marked exception of those pulling in a comfortable salary).
A person can live in denial for a long time. I've known several gay men who have married, usually with subsequent children. Every one that I've met, knew that they were gay before they got married - at least they admit they were attracted to other men. But be it fear of HIV, or condemnation from their church, or just a rejection of what they were told about "the gay community" before coming out; they decided they would force themselves straight with their will. Over the years they end up living double lives. Often, they eventually come out. Sometimes, the friendship they've built over the years is strong enough to survive the change.
I have an "ex-gay" story. I had just started volunteering at a g/l support phone line. A fellow volunteer was in the office with me when a frail looking young man with an unfortunate hairline walked in. I asked if I could help him find anything (we had books and pamphlets laying out for people that dropped in). He said no, he was just curious. He wasn't gay - he used to be, but he overcame it through Jesus Christ our lord. ... I broke out laughing. I thought he must be joking. Even as a (then) Christian, I'd never heard anything so preposterous. The chatting died off pretty quickly once I realized he was serious. He took a few pamphlets, although I've always wondered if he were really Ex, why would he need them?
I ask myself... if they're really "ex-gay", why aren't they simply straight? How ridiculous would it be for someone to form an "ex-heterosexual" group?